News reports have been out about yet another victim of a dog attack. A women and her three dogs visiting her nephew. While in the nephews apartment, she was attacked by one of her own dogs. The dog was not new to the woman, so what happened?
That is the million dollar question. I am no dog expert, so I will leave that to those who are. One thing I’m pretty confident about is this woman most likely did not plan for this to happen, unless she had a death wish.
So why do people leave comments that ridicule her, judge her, blame her and even wish that more harm had come to her. Why would you kick someone when they are down? I’m sure she is in enough pain physically and emotionally.
It was those same comments that cut through my heart when Kiyana’s story aired around the world. Ignorant people flooded the comments by the thousands. Kiyana was dead but they felt calling her a brat was necessary. They cited things about the incident that were just not true. The topic of conversation was not about the loss of a beautiful little girl, but more about the breed of dog. “It must be a pit bull”, “I want to see a picture of the dog”. Those were the comments plaster throught the pages of comments.
The truth of the matter is we didn’t care at that time what breed of dog it was. We didn’t give a damb if it was a pit bull, chihuahua or a doberman. Our “Baby Girl” was gone and she took a big piece of us with her. We were concerned about how we woukd bury our little girl, or how we could get through the next hour. Yes there were many questions but that would have to be for a later time; if we made it that far.
I admit that theres is tremendous angry, disappointment and many questions. We had every right to blame and point fingers, but we couldn’t go there. We had to honor the kindness, compassion and love that represented who Kiyana was. That is what she shared with the world, not ugliness. Kiyana didn’t have an angry bone in her body, and we would make sure she left this world not seeing us in that way. We chose to honor her and make her proud. It is called dignity. There is a time and place for everything.
Does that mean we woukd not fight; hell no! I spend hours researching, talking with people who understand, writing, and educating myself. That is how I decided to fight. I want to be part of the solution not the problem.
I understand more now about the epidemic and staggering statistics. I believe many of us are on the same side, just approaching it differently I am just asking that those who write such negative comments think about the damage they are causing as well. Not to just the victim and their family, but everyone who is working hard to bring awareness and initiate change.
What does the rude comments accomplish? Is it possible the you are alienating the very people who can speak from personal experience. Their tragedy might bring more awareness in a different way and help the cause.
What is the positive side of these negative comments? Are you gaining trust, respect, focus on the problem, or does being hateful just make you feel good inside? Hate does not initiate change.
This is just one persons take on it. We dont have to agree, and I would love to hear from others.
What are your thoughts?
RIP Kiyana McNeal. Daddy and I miss you so much.