Please make safety a priority , especially around children. Your child depends on you to protect them. Please research and understand the risks before making a decision to bring a dog into your home. I see an article almost everyday about another vicious dog attack.
Since Kiyana’s tragic death I have read about so many other dog attacks. I was truly not aware that dog attacks were so common. I read the reports and the comments for each story and realize that many others are not aware. if they are aware it seems the side of dogs or the side of humans. is there really a side. I side with bring awareness and finding solutions that will stop our babies from being hurt or killed so viciously. the blame game is not solving the problem. I would love to hear your thoughts on a solution to this epidemic.
News reports have been out about yet another victim of a dog attack. A women and her three dogs visiting her nephew. While in the nephews apartment, she was attacked by one of her own dogs. The dog was not new to the woman, so what happened?
That is the million dollar question. I am no dog expert, so I will leave that to those who are. One thing I’m pretty confident about is this woman most likely did not plan for this to happen, unless she had a death wish.
So why do people leave comments that ridicule her, judge her, blame her and even wish that more harm had come to her. Why would you kick someone when they are down? I’m sure she is in enough pain physically and emotionally.
It was those same comments that cut through my heart when Kiyana’s story aired around the world. Ignorant people flooded the comments by the thousands. Kiyana was dead but they felt calling her a brat was necessary. They cited things about the incident that were just not true. The topic of conversation was not about the loss of a beautiful little girl, but more about the breed of dog. “It must be a pit bull”, “I want to see a picture of the dog”. Those were the comments plaster throught the pages of comments.
The truth of the matter is we didn’t care at that time what breed of dog it was. We didn’t give a damb if it was a pit bull, chihuahua or a doberman. Our “Baby Girl” was gone and she took a big piece of us with her. We were concerned about how we woukd bury our little girl, or how we could get through the next hour. Yes there were many questions but that would have to be for a later time; if we made it that far.
I admit that theres is tremendous angry, disappointment and many questions. We had every right to blame and point fingers, but we couldn’t go there. We had to honor the kindness, compassion and love that represented who Kiyana was. That is what she shared with the world, not ugliness. Kiyana didn’t have an angry bone in her body, and we would make sure she left this world not seeing us in that way. We chose to honor her and make her proud. It is called dignity. There is a time and place for everything.
Does that mean we woukd not fight; hell no! I spend hours researching, talking with people who understand, writing, and educating myself. That is how I decided to fight. I want to be part of the solution not the problem.
I understand more now about the epidemic and staggering statistics. I believe many of us are on the same side, just approaching it differently I am just asking that those who write such negative comments think about the damage they are causing as well. Not to just the victim and their family, but everyone who is working hard to bring awareness and initiate change.
What does the rude comments accomplish? Is it possible the you are alienating the very people who can speak from personal experience. Their tragedy might bring more awareness in a different way and help the cause.
What is the positive side of these negative comments? Are you gaining trust, respect, focus on the problem, or does being hateful just make you feel good inside? Hate does not initiate change.
This is just one persons take on it. We dont have to agree, and I would love to hear from others.
What are your thoughts?
RIP Kiyana McNeal. Daddy and I miss you so much.
It is happening too often. our children are taken from us so senselessly. I know the pain of this family all too well. we are living it each day. please send prayers to them if you can.
My heart goes out to this family.
The days following Kiyana’s death are a big blur to me, but I clearly remember the news reports and comments attached to them. I remember spending many hours online searching for anything about her tragic death. Some of the reason was to learn about what happened, and I realize some of it was a distraction from the shock, disbelief, emptiness, and pure grief that consumed me. I realize now that there was another motive. I needed to express my anger, and the comments I read allowed me to express my anger, and divert it to someone I didn’t know.
I found myself defending our beautiful blameless little girl from accusations, and her dad and I from people placing blame on us. That was so offensive to me at the time. Did they not read or watch the news reports? Apparently not, because Kiyana’s dad and I were waiting patiently to hear from Kiyana’s mom for days. I kept seeing “why would the “parents” bring this dog around their child”, “the girl must have provoked the dog”, “she was a brat”, “it must have been a pitbull”. Did they not realize that we lost our beautiful “Baby Girl”.
In our grief, these things didn’t matter. Didn’t matter what kind of dog, didnt’ matter if she provoked the dog, and it didn’t matter they wanted to blame someone. What did matter, is that the world should understand the beauty, joy, compassion, love and kindness that was taken away. They didn’t care who Kiyana was, only that she was the 4 year old girl that was mauled by a dog.
I couldn’t let that happen then, and I won’t let that happen now. I am determined to share Kiyana with the world. As I read these comments, I responded by defending Kiyana and her dad. I also attached a video of her and her dad, or a video of Kiyana signing. See they loved music and sang together all the time.
It has been four weeks now since her death, and we still struggle each moment to cope with her being gone. I am just as determined today as I was 4 weeks ago to share her with the world. That is one of the purposes for my blog, but it is not the only purpose. I need to bring awareness, so another child is saved from the pain and other families are saved from the pain of losing a child. I need to make others aware of the risk.
I hope parents will remember our story when they are considering bringing a dog into a home with small children. I hope parents will picture Kiyana’s face when they teach their children how to be safe around dogs. I also want people recognize that your world can come crashing down at any moment, so every moment counts.
Our family was blessed with a no drama parenting relationship between Kiyana’s mom. We were blessed to have Kiyana in our home for weeks at a time, As a stepmom, I was blessed to have Kiyana as a daughter, not a stepdaughter, but a daughter. Now we just feel completely blessed that we have such beautiful memories of an angel that filled our lives with happiness.
The article below is a story related to a child being bitten by a dog. I visited the article, and the comments reminded me of the unbelievable anger I felt when people made those comments to me. I feel for the parents regardless of who, what, and how things happened. I know they are only concerned with their son, but unfortunately they feel that they must defend themselves. There is a time and place for everything. Times of tragedy are not that time and place.